Monday, January 31, 2011
Friday, January 28, 2011
Monday, January 24, 2011
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Friday, January 21, 2011
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
- Leave-In Spray. This is a combo of whole leaf aloe vera juice and water with a couple of essential oils added in.
- Creamy Leave-In Conditioner. I’ve talked about this product plenty of times but my go-to creamy leave-in is Shea Moisture’s Deep Treatment Masque. I have used other products in the past but this one hasn’t failed me. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
- Shea Butter Mix to seal in moisture. This is something that I made myself. It’s a combo of unrefined shea butter, aloe vera gel, olive oil, castor oil, vegetable glycerin, and tea tree and rosemary essential oils. I could have simply taken any other type of oil for this step, like jojoba, but I liked the fact that this was not a liquid.
- Leave the liquid leave-in at home and use good ole H2O and shower steam for moisture.
- Pack hair accessories. There’s nothing like a cute little flower, a colorful scarf or an ornamented hair clip to jazz up a style (and they don’t take up any amount of space).
- Include a rinse out conditioner for co-washing. It wasn't needed but would have been nice to have in my arsenal in case it was.
- Pack travel sizes to avoid bag checking.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Monday, January 17, 2011
Speaking of gifts, I got many others this weekend in honor of my birthday. Like to hear it, here it go:
I've loved Dr. Martin Luther, the King Jr. since I was a little girl. Pre-kindergarten, I didn’t love him specifically because of his service to us or even because of his “I Have a Dream” speech. I loved him because we shared a birthday and way back when, we used to get off from school on the actual day of a holiday as opposed to the Monday after the holiday occurred. That meant, that I always had my birthday off from school. By the way, I think pushing all Federal holidays to Monday in order to have a long weekend is kind of whack. I mean, it is nice to have a 3 day weekend but I would enjoy having (and sometimes NEED) a random day off during the week too. I guess that’s what PTO is for, huh? Oh okay, I digress.
When I got a little older, and really realized the significance of Martin Luther King Jr.'s life and the impact that he had on this country, I was proud to say that we shared a birthday. And to this day, I still am. Make no mistake, he was a flawed man. But he saw an injustice and DID something about it.
So in honor of him, we need to "keep dreamin’", y’all. And don’t just dream, but let’s really honor Dr. King by putting some serious work into making those dreams a reality.
Friday, January 14, 2011
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
P.S. The fathers that co-sign this madness are crazier than the mothers and need a swift kick.
Over the last year or so, I have had tons of fun polishing my nails. The most fun thing about nail polish to me: the names. They are absolutely adorable and make me smile. Next best thing: the color selections. There are tons of colors and finishes out there. But the worst thing about nail polish to me: the application. Ugh-boo-hiss! Some polish brushes are just a chore to work with during application.
That brush is the most! It makes application a breeze. I don’t use it as an all-in-one polish the way it is marketed because it wears quickly, in my opinion. I need my polish to stay put for at least 3 days before a touch up or color change. So I use a base and top coat to maximize longevity.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
My answer, “I’m not sure.”
Monday, January 10, 2011
Well, I refuse to protect myself! I like to be foot loose and fancy free.
Yeah, I said it. I will not protect my hair this winter. I will not braid it with extensions…I will not wig it…I will not weave it…I will not twist it…I will not bun it…I will not cornrow it. I ain’t doing none of that stuff.
A lot of folks in the (not just natural) hair community are talking about hiding their hair in the winter months to shield the oldest and most fragile section of hair - the ends - which are more susceptible to breakage, from the harshness of the cold weather outside and the extremely dry heat inside. And while it makes sense, I just can’t. Well, I could…but I won’t – at least, not on a consistent basis.
My problem with protective styling is that I don’t care for the looks ON ME. I have major problems with braid extensions, wigs and weaves. Any hair on top of or added to my head makes my scalp feel like its suffocating. The problem with the twists? Time. It takes a few hours to put them in since I like mine tiny, and a good amount of time to take them out. Even though twists can be kept in for a few weeks and styling options abound, I start to miss my big hair at about day #2. Buns are no good – again, for me – because I like my hair to be smooth when pulled back and I hate using gobs of gel to achieve the look on my highly textured hair. Plus, most good holding gels contain protein, and protein + my hair = straw-like, crunchy mess. Cornrows are out because I don’t like seeing my scalp and although the really tiny, intricate ones make the scalp less visible…well, there’s that time issue again.
I got issues. *sigh…*
So I’m going unprotected for the winter with the full knowledge that mistakes like split ends, breakage and knots could happen. This is risky business, but it's a risk I'm willing to take to wear the hair that I love.
How about you, are you going unprotected this winter? If not, what is your form of protection?
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Friday, January 7, 2011
I’ve heard many preachers say, “If you take care of God’s business; He’ll take care of your business.” That statement is usually made in reference to giving financially to the church.
Money - which is needed to support the church (whose mission *should* be to equip and strengthen its congregation, its neighborhood and the world through spiritual enlightenment AND through alms) - is not the only way we take care of God's business. We’re admonished also to bear fruit which is a result of living His way.
Let’s take a look at what The Message Bible has to say about fruit. Incidentally, I love The Message Bible because it really breaks down Scripture in no nonsense language that sometimes makes me chuckle.
Galatians 5:21-23 (The Message)
19-21It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; magic-show religion; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community. I could go on.
This isn't the first time I have warned you, you know. If you use your freedom this way, you will not inherit God's kingdom.
22-23But what happens when we live God's way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard—things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely.
23-24Legalism is helpless in bringing this about; it only gets in the way. Among those who belong to Christ, everything connected with getting our own way and mindlessly responding to what everyone else calls necessities is killed off for good—crucified.
Good stuff, huh? Stick with me, I’m going somewhere…
I made a few declarations in this post and one statement I made has been nagging me:
I will be accountable and honor my commitments.
The New Year is only seven days old and I’m proud to say that honoring commitments has been a breeze. 2010, however, is a different story.
Take a look back at verses 22-23: “But what happens when we live God’s way…We develop a willingness to stick with things...we find ourselves involved in loyal commitments…”
Let that marinate.
I am a Christian that strives to live God’s way. And regardless of what was going on in my life that I could or could not control in 2010, I did a poor job of keeping my word (or at the very least, communicating why I couldn't) to people that I respect and care about.
Over the next week or so, I’ve got some splainin’ to do. Some folks won’t understand and others will think that I’m apologizing for small infractions. Makes no difference, I have to do this for me.
Sticking with things and loyal commitments (along with the other fruit mentioned) are an outward manifestation of a deliberate, inward spiritual relationship.
So yeah, in 2011, I’m taking care of business as best as I can. Bygones can’t be bygones because the law of reciprocity is real:
Galatians 6:7-8 (The Message)
7-8Don't be misled: No one makes a fool of God. What a person plants, he will harvest. The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others—ignoring God!—harvests a crop of weeds. All he'll have to show for his life is weeds! But the one who plants in response to God, letting God's Spirit do the growth work in him, harvests a crop of real life, eternal life.
Anything been nagging you about 2010 that won’t allow you to fully appreciate what 2011 has to offer?
Thursday, January 6, 2011
I am a leader and not a follower;
I hang with people who have my solution and not my problem;
I am an achiever and more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus who loves me.
It is in me to prosper;
It is in me to be blessed;
It is in me to excel and transcend the norm.
I am who God says I am;
I can do what God says I can do;
I am the spout where his glory comes out in Jesus’ name,
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
I’ve been updating this blog daily (in my mind) over the last 6 months. One of the main reasons I haven’t updated is laziness and apprehension. I wasn’t posting because, well…I was too lazy to boot up the computer once I got home from work and then the majority of what I wanted to post was related to my hair and I so didn’t want this blog to morph into a hair blog. Don’t get me wrong, I love and follow zillions of hair blogs but I never really wanted to be “that girl”, you know?
Well, in 2011 I’m not concerned with myself. I can’t understand why I make simple things more complicated than it has to be.
I’m going to blog about my ‘fro as often as I like and we’ll see where things go.
Monday, January 3, 2011
First, thanks for seeing fit to allow me to be in the land of the living one more day.
2010 was an odd year. It flew by quickly and as I look back on it, I can’t say it was fabulous. It had its positive and happy moments but it also had a bunch of negatives and sad moments. When I reflect on the year, the things that immediately come to mind are anxiety, sadness, worry and stress. I’m pretty sure I experienced at least one real anxiety attack, epic amounts of stress and if I had had enough courage to go to a doctor, I’m certain I would have been diagnosed with depression. It was a rough year.
But…I made it! And I know for certain it was because of you that I did. I may not have had good sense enough to acknowledge it (or thank you profusely), but it was certainly you that got me through. Of course there were a few key people that you put in my life that I could vent and cry to, but it was you that placed those people in my life. You saw fit to take care of me in spite of myself and it was because of your providence that I have to say that 2010 was ultimately, a blessing. Thank you again!
Now on to 2011…
I’m 3 days in and I must say that some of the stressors and problems that were in 2010 are still with me in the New Year. But that’s OK. You didn’t promise a stressor free life, but you did promise that you’d help:
I Corinthians 10:13 (The Message Bible)
No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; he’ll always be there to help you come through it.
Because of your word, I declare:
· I will not allow stressors to dictate my performance at home, at work or in my relationships.
· I will take deliberate steps to reduce and/or eliminate the stressors that are in my life.
· I will CONFRONT all problems and not pretend that they will magically take care of themselves.
· I will be accountable and honor my commitments.
· I will not be anxious, stressed to the limit or allow worry to debilitate me.
· I will continue to remind myself that “No” is a complete sentence.
· I will set goals and
work towards accomplishing accomplish them.
· I will not stray from my 2011 plan
These are not my resolutions, but this is my revelation.
God, you know the desires of my heart and I’m going to trust and believe that if I put in the work on the above I won’t have to pray for tangible/material things because that will be the fruit of my labor.
Here’s to a fab New Year!
The best is yet to come…